My first date post-separation was fraught with emotion: excitement, curiosity, anxiety…. But mostly I was petrified. I spent way too much time getting ready and we were just meeting for coffee in the middle of a Saturday. Fortunately, the person who was the lucky recipient of all my nervous energy was extremely kind and understanding. He was also separated but 6 months ahead of me. So he had already dated but wasn’t so far in that he had forgotten how nerve-racking it can be to go out on a date after being with the same person for 10/15/20 plus years. Other than word vomiting through the first 15 minutes of the date, it went fairly well all things considered. We left one another on the street and I was certain I’d see him again. He texted me later that day to tell me he enjoyed meeting me and asking if I wanted to go out again. When I answered yes, he pressed me to tell him what I liked about him. I thought about it and replied “you were very sweet when I was so nervous and made a huge effort to make me feel comfortable…. Oh and you also wore good shoes.” It was the first thing I noticed about what he was wearing when I walked up to him outside the cafe. So are first impressions important? Of course. And what you’re wearing is part of that first impression! If you want to know what makes the cut, check out Esquires 12 Shoes Every Man Should Own.