I strongly suggest you stop everything you’re doing, immediately watch this riveting interview with Dr. Mimi Winsberg, and then run (don’t walk) to your nearest bookstore and buy her book.

Dr. Winsberg was formerly Facebook’s in-house psychiatrist, and now has taken all of her learnings about the psychology behind messaging and texting in the context of dating and turned it into Speaking in Thumbs — I’m not kidding when I tell you I couldn’t put it down.

In our conversation, we cover all the hot-button messaging topics: how to endear yourself to someone through mirroring, step-by-step ways to have more interesting text conversations, red flags you might not even know how to identify, advice specific to men and specific to women, and, of course, what your emojis say about you.