How to Start a Convo on Tinder

There is only ONE thing you need to know about how to start a convo on Tinder.

Do you believe me?

It’s not looks – matching is pretty much all about physical attraction, so clearly you’ve already got that!

It’s not shared interests – it’s a super cool bonus if on paper you and your match seem like you’ll be two peas in a pod, but that’s not the be-all and end-all.

The one and only thing you need to have to start a conversation on Tinder (a conversation that will get responses, that is)… is curiosity.

Genuine, enthusiastic curiosity about your match is the one magic ingredient you need.

As long as you’re starting the conversation with a question, I almost don’t care what you’re asking about!

But I know you want me to be more specific, so here’s what I’ll say:

Avoid those questions that are so generic and broad that they won’t be fun for the other person to answer. No “How are you?” or “How was your weekend?” Tee your match up to tell you about something more exciting than their run-of-the-mill work day.

If you can, dig into something cool about their profile! If they scuba dive, ask about when they decided to get certified, what the craziest fish they’ve seen is, or how long they can hold their breath underwater. If they play an instrument, ask about whether they serenade their neighbors, what the one song they most love to play, or what they’d name their album if they were in a band.

Now, the real secret is:

There’s an even easier way to start a conversation. For those times when you’re a little stuck on what to say, or a little low on time, or a little tired and not up for being creative: I wrote 30 conversation starters that are unique, specific, and fun to talk about, the kinds of things you’d have a blast discussing with a friendly stranger at a cocktail party or at a dinner table with your college friends.

They’re disarming, thoughtful, and a little silly at times, and myself or my clients have tested every single one of them on the apps. They all got responses 🙂

Download Profile In An Hour and claim these 30 Conversation Starters That Will Get You A Response! And then jazz up your profile with all the other resources you get from Profile In An Hour while you’re at it.

Learn more on how to start a convo on Tinder and other apps:

30 Conversation Starters on Hinge that Actually Work

Best Questions to Ask in Online Dating Messages

The Best Hinge and Bumble Prompt Answers

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Hi! I’m Alyssa Dineen and I’m a personal stylist and dating coach all rolled into one. I started Style My Profile to help other online daters feel better about getting out there— and staying out there— in the world of online dating. Whether it’s to meet your soulmate, to find a fun person to have dinner with or even just match with more people, I can help you from the ground up.


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